Comparison Adds Pressure

A 15-year-old Reyan feels there’s no hope for him in the world unless he becomes more like his brother, while another girl of the same age knows that if she doesn’t score more than 95% like her friend, her parents won’t be able to face the society. Ira, another teenager, believes that it’s a waste to spend money on her education. And all this, because of the excessive parental pressures that teenagers face in their daily life.

 

In order to bring fore this issue that has plagued students across the country, Shoojit Sircar has directed an ad campaign for a beverage company’s “Release the Pressure” campaign. In the 1 minute 42 second video, several students narrate how they feel about themselves and their stories are heart-breaking, to say the least. The constant comparison by parents often ends up lowering a teenager’s self-esteem and even though parents have the best of intentions for their child at their heart, their behavior sometimes has the opposite effect.

 

I’m not saying that the parents should not have any expectations from their child but the expectations should be according to the child’s capability. Because high expectations are often too high to achieve.

 

And before comparing a child with another, they should think of how they would feel if their child starts comparing them with their friend’s parents. Don’t compare your life with others. There’s no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it’s their time.
Lastly, I would like to conclude by something rather inspirational.

 

In Japan, broken objects are often repaired with gold. The flaw is seen as a unique piece of the object’s history, which adds to its beauty. Consider this when you feel broken.

4 Comments Add yours

  1. Anand says:

    The last bit made me feel how well read you are and how beautifully apt examples you use. Each and every flower is unique, unique its fragrance, unique its perfection. Perfection alone is. Why compare?

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    1. Sonali says:

      Thanks and well said. Have a nice day.

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  2. First off, Sonali, I love — just love! — your apt reference to wabi sabi aesthetics at the end of your post.

    Second, your post is heart-felt and brilliant. You nailed the problem and the damage it does. I am under the impression it is far and away worse in India than in America, but that does not mean there is not parental pressure here. I work with a lot of people in their teens and early twenties, and most of them have stories to tell!

    Jiddu Krishnamurti was pretty blunt about it. “Comparisons kill the child”, he said, and he was right.

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    1. Sonali says:

      I’m glad you liked it!

      Thank you and I can’t say if it’s worse in India or America. But this is a problem people very often neglect, which is really harmful for the child. Most of the parents think that children don’t have any problems and they compare thinking it will bring their competitive side out. But on the contrary, it brings out the worse side of the children.

      Indeed he was right.

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